One of the greatest legacies of any pastor is for his children to grow up loving God and loving the church passionately.
Yet this is often not the story of the children of a pastor. Why? Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to this question.
A Brief Testimony
Through the years, hundreds of people have asked how they could pray for our family. Jeana and I made one thing very clear through the years that our boys were living at home with us: "Pray for Josh and Nick to love God and love the church passionately."
By grace alone, both Josh and Nick, now in their 30s, love God and love the church passionately. Josh lives in metropolitan Birmingham, Alabama, serving as the head football coach of the Hewitt-Trussville Huskies. He and his wife, Kate, love God and love the church passionately.
Nick is the leader of our Cross Church staff team and serves as teaching pastor of not just our Fayetteville campuses, but across the ministry. He and his wife, Meredith, love God and love the church passionately.
Now Josh and Kate and Nick and Meredith have the privilege of raising their children to live as they did and still do today: loving God and loving the church passionately.
4 Things to Consider in Relationship to Your Children
Again, there is no easy answer to how your children grow up and love God and his church passionately. Yet perhaps these four things may be worth consideration.
1. Engage Other People to Pray for Your Children
As a pastor, please do not think you are over-spiritualizing the extraordinary challenge of raising your children. Pastors need to request of their church publicly: "Please pray for my children to grow up loving God and loving the church passionately"—and you can make that same request of people privately.
Pastor, you are continually called upon to pray for other people. There is nothing wrong with requesting that others pray for your children from the time they are toddlers all the way through their college years. This is not a sign of weakness, but personal humility and deep faith in God.
2. Teach Your Children to Walk with God
Pastors spend much time teaching people God's Word and how to walk in his power through life. If we can do this for our church members, we should do this for our own children.
While your children live with you, from the oldest to the youngest, teach them what it means to walk with God. Show them how to do it. We cannot expect them to walk or live in a way we have never shown them personally.
3. Give God a Chance
Many pastors feel they do not need to encourage their children to be involved in church ministries and activities, thinking it will be perceived as forcing them. I respectfully disagree.
My boys grew up always going to church. Yes, unashamedly, Sunday mornings, Sunday nights, Wednesday nights, children's activities and ministries and student activities and ministries. We started with church—not sports, personal preferences or peer influence. Our boys were never bitter or resentful. They were afforded life-changing experiences at student camps and retreats, on mission trips, on choir trips and through multiple other experiences. Powerful relationships were formed, and our sons are connected forever to their former student pastors.
Pastor, give God a chance with your kids. They need to be in spiritual environments as children and teenagers to have God do a work in their life.
4. Walk by Faith, Trusting God
As parents, pastors need to teach their children to walk with God and need to continually place them in environments where God has a powerful chance with their kids. Then, while asking people to pray for them, you can walk by faith, trusting God for their future with him and his church.
Your child may take a periodic tour away from God, but God is able to pull them back to himself. His Word never returns void, and the prayers of his people have lasting influence with him.
Therefore, what we can do as parents, whether we are pastors or not, is to walk by faith, trusting God.
In the meantime, love your children unconditionally and call out to God on their behalf in prayer daily, periodically even coupling those prayers with fasting.
Our God is able! Trust him by faith!
Dr. Ronnie Floyd has been a pastor for over 37 years. Since 1986, Pastor Floyd has served as the Senior Pastor of Cross Church, Northwest Arkansas, which has baptized over 17,000 people during his tenure. Cross Church was one of the first churches in America to go multi-site. Pastor Floyd served two terms as president of the Southern Baptist Convention. He has authored over 20 books including FORWARD: 7 Distinguishing Marks For Future Leaders.
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